A few days
ago I was reading the August issue of the Cosmopolitan Finland magazine. Although I’m
usually not taking cosmo-girl talk very seriously, in this issue there was
something that I found so ridiculous that it almost made me write their
Facebook page to hire editors that have something else than hairspray and
Aperol Spritz bubbles in their heads.
The Cosmo advice I was taken aback by was that in case your current bf asks you how many guys you’ve slept with, the
rule of thumb is to divide the actual number by four. So to lie
that you’ve slept with a fourth of the people you have if telling the truth.
First of
all – have you ever been asked? I certainly haven’t. And it has never been in
my interest to know with how many people have my dates or boyfriends slept
before me. What kind of person asks this from their partner anyway? I can’t
picture a single positive outcome that somebody would gain by knowing the
amount of people that their special one has shared sexual experiences with.
Second –
why would you lie? It’s probably since I’m such a poor liar that nobody would
believe my attempt of lying anyway, but I think that the rule of thumb that
works best in a relationship is don’t tell lies.
Third – the
number doesn’t tell anything from the person carrying it. It’s the past. Even
though the number was 120, the person carrying it might have had some serious
good time while being 16 years old and afterwards slept with only a few. As
well, if the number is 1 or 2, the person might still be a crazy sex addict but
happy enough to have found the one person who’ve handled it. So what’s the
outcome of knowing the number? Misleading.
And finally – if you still decide to share your number with anyone, be true to yourself and your past sex buddies. If you follow your gut and make choices by your own free will, there should
be nothing to be ashamed of. And isn't keeping a number so 1990's anyway?
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Sally
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