4 Reasons to Meet His Parents as Early as Possible

Meeting the folks has traditionally been a big step in a relationship. Not everyone gets the access to the family and so introducing a new partner to the family delivers a message that this is serious between you and me and I want you to be a part of my life. 

Meeting the parents has also the tradition of being stiff, stressful, and awkward.

However, it's actually not that big of a deal. Meeting his parents is an opportunity and not a threat, since you actually learn a lot about the person from the time spent with his family.

So to encourage everyone to grab the opportunity to meet the parents even during the earliest stages of dating, I gathered the top four points that make Parental Advisory worth a million dollars.

1. You'll probably have fun.
   
   Most parents, at least referring to my own experience, are actually nice and they have a tendency also to like a girl that's a special one of their beloved baby boy. Meeting the parents provides you not only the opportunity to getting to know new people, but also the opportunity of having a good time. While meeting the parents, you are very likely to be served cake, champagne, theater tickets, boat rides and such. So just enjoy it!
    
2. You learn about his values.
   
   The core values that are carried in our minds and hearts through our whole lives are learned from the family. While hanging out with the family, you will easily spot values and attitudes that won't come out in the casual everyday dating life you're having with him. This is the risky zone - however, it's worth discovering during the early stage, so you won't have surprises such as hidden hatred towards homosexuals or lack of ambition in life.
    
3. You face the true level of his independence.
   
   Every man shows their true face with their mother. However, if you are dating a grown-up man, he shouldn't be arriving to his mom's place shouting "MOM I'M HOME" at the corridor or bringin his laundry for his mother to wash. Even though close and loving relationship with his mother is naturally a sweet thing, things will probably get harsh between you and him at some point, if his mother still has access rights to his bank account.
    
4. You start caring more.
   
   While spending time with his family, you will get deeper in knowing him, as the family describes a person probably better than anything else. With his family, it will start occurring to you whether you want to be a part of this family in the future or not. Meeting the family often opens one's eyes to see the person as truly unique.
    

If it's a match, it might actually lead to the case of this is serious between me and you.

Post by Sally

Is Less actually More?

Last weekend I met a friend of mine, and as all decent-behaving fine ladies do when they meet after a while, we analyzed the current situation of our sex lives, as well as other relationship related issues. Well, my friend told me the most ridiculous thing I had heard by far, or at least that’s what I was thinking when I heard the thing – she told me she only has sex with her boyfriend maximum once a week, since she wants to invest in quality instead of quantity.

I told her she could stop making poor excuses, and admit that three years in a relationship, a dog and a shared laundry bag have affected the intensiveness of her bedroom activity.

However, the more I thought about it, the more sense it started to make. One of the basic assumptions of human behavior in economics is the law of diminishing marginal utility – the more you have a certain good, the less extra utility a unit of the good gives you.  The first glass of wine gives you much more pleasure than the tenth one (though alcohol might be exception since the sufficient supply of it is free and unlimited).

This applies to human contact as well. The more you meet someone, the less special it gets. If you meet a guy rarely, the moments are loaded with expectations, belongingness and happiness. More often you meet, more everydayish it gets. Like if you start having lunch every day in a Michelin starred restaurant instead of your office cafeteria, you’ll get used to the quality of the food, and stop respecting its amazingness of every meal. In the end you start treating the Michelin star restaurant in your mind the same way as you treat the poor office cafeteria.

This applies especially in a situation when dating someone new is starting to get more frequent. After some while of dating the excitement slowly starts to disappear as the relationship starts to stabilize. It becomes everyday. And this is where we are heading with my guy right now. 

Though emotions are the only concept in the world that cannot be explained by science, the laws of social sciences might still have their points to apply in the market of love. I'm not ready to stabilize with my nascent relationship just yet. So taking some distance might actually improve our utility surpluses. I don’t want us to treat each other like office cafeterias. 

Post by Sally

The Critical Step

I don't know on which basis you people evaluate your new love affairs, but for me, you really can't tell if a guy is worth putting any effort for before you have been in bed together.

But this has nothing to do with sex.

Even though I'm not the type of girl that I would spend my lonely nights holding a big fluffy teddybear, dreaming about a man who would gently hold me as I fall asleep, I do believe in the power of touch.

When you spend time in bed for the first time with someone you like, there is two common scenarios of what might happen. First one is that it's nice. It's fun, it's okay. When the regular routine is looming ahead and it's time to start reading emails and hiding from deadlines, you get up like every morning after a good night of sleep: it would be nice to stay to bed, but you rather get up. The bedtime was fun but when it's done, you're just done with it. And this is a bad sign.

The other scenario is that it's just magical. Like, regardless if you actually sleep together or not, it's just amazing. You know, it's like you're creating your own little parallel universe where nothing else matters except for the skin contact. You just simply can't get up. That's the kind of chemistry that causes you being late from work, skipping parties, not answering phone calls or staying inside the house for 36 hours.

If there's no such physical obsession, it never works. I don't know if it's about pheromones, hormones, chemicals or some unexplained divine forces, but even though I would really like a guy, the sex would be superb, but there's just no gut feeling of "let's quit our jobs and move to Siberia so that we can stay in and cuddle for the rest of our lives", I know that sooner or later the thing will suck.

So last night I slept with my new date. It was a "let's lock the doors, skip our duties and forget the real world" kinda thing. But still I was early at the office this morning.

But I'm pretty sure it's just me enhancing my habits. And this thing might be worth, if not putting all in, then at least up the ante.

Post by Sally